Facing uncharted dating territory without your usual liquid courage can increase your risk for relapse.
Oftentimes people in recovery are apprehensive about revealing their sobriety for fear of judgment.
Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, but assuming that we would not want our emotional and mental well-being to hinge on a miracle, is it worth the risk?
But this is not what the recovering addict is thinking about.
I'm seeing relationships with my friends and family improving dramatically. (Amends to follow...) I was so miserable, and unhappy that I was reacting this way. He saw that he didn't want any part of this hot mess, and I saw that I simply can't do this. :(I have come to believe that my first priority has to be my recovery, and this setback was proof that I can't handle even dating, because I naturally fall back into old patterns that don't work.
They tell me in AA that I shouldn't get into a relationship in the first year of sobriety, at least..I tell myself I've been doing so well in my recovery, CLEARLY this suggestion doesn't apply to me. I am making amends to people, I am recognizing my part in problems, I am more positive, spiritual, I'm making PROGRESS! I called him all kinds of names and accused him of being a man-child incapable of emotional maturity. I realize I am as sick in romantic relationships as I am in regards to drinking.